The Power of Words
The words we speak to our spouses, children, friends, coworkers and stranger we meet matters.
However, it can be easy to say whatever we want to people (particularly our spouses), without giving it a second thought.
For example, of course i want my words to be sweet to my spouse…but I have to admit, they are not always sweet.
There are times I know I should not say something to Elton but I still say it. Of course, he doesn’t always get the best of me 100% of the time, but i do try my best to give it to him. In reality, it is the unfiltered version of me he receives most of the time.
I am always a work in progress, so I wanted to share some of the things I do to help myself be a better gatekeeper of the words I speak:
- I pray daily that the Holy Spirit will not let me be unkind.
- I ask myself how I would feel if he said to me what I am about to say to him.
- I ask myself if what am about to say will build him up or tear him down.
- If i do say something unkind, I own up to it and apologize.
As I am sure you can relate, I don’t want any hurt my husband may experience to come from me. After all, God gave me this man to love, honor and cherish. I want to make sure that he feels those things when he is around me.
Being married means having the opportunity to know your spouse better than anyone else in the world. You know whaat lights them up, what causes them pain…you know their strengths and you’ve seen their weaknesses too. You know their dreams and their fears, and you know how much you love them.
That vulnerability is one of the sacred things about marriage; never underestimate the power your words have in your marriage. Your spouse cares more about what you think than anyone else.
This week, I want to challenge you to begin speaking life into your spouse TODAY. Show them your devotion through your words, and watch them smile jus a little more than usual.
Question: Have you and your spouse done the five love languages together? If so, what is your love language? What is your spouses?